i woke up this morning feeling a bit sad. I wasn’t sure exactly why and truthfully it didn’t matter.. I had began writing a bit as a way of releasing some of the heaviness and my phone rang. It was a call from someone who is very special to me in fact I love them a ton. They could tell something was wrong and asked me what it was. I hadn’t yet worked through it my self and wasn’t able to talk about it yet and truthfully didn’t want to. Soon the conversation flipped 360 degrees around and they blew up at me for my choice to stay silent.
As i I sit here processing the whole event I first have to take responsibility for being a vibrational match to their outburst. I do this by asking my self what part of me was being a bit abrasive to myself and what part of me dodnt feel safe in that moment and was ready for be embraced.. in locating within myself the answers deep healing begins to take shape Ian’s at some point in the near future experiences such as this morning will be a thing of the past.. I am not by any means justifying less then loving encounters but I am saying if we locate the stuff within purselves that is ready to heal we no longer need to experience events that produce a similar trigger..
if i was to say say exactly what it was I needed in that moment it was for them to gift me my space, I could have made the choice to not answer the call but I chose instead to answer. During the call the more that I felt un-safe the higher the encounter became emotionally charged.. and within minutes it was ugly. I hung up the phone and they began texting me words that felt like vomit. I have a choice and so do you and my choice is to draw my line in the sand and say “NO TO SELF ABUSE AND NO TO ABUSE BY OTHERS.. it is to dig DEEPER AND FIND THE NEXT SPOT WITHIN ME THAT IS CRYING OUT FOR MY ATTENTION..
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in a experience with someone that is capable of holding space in a way that is helpful I jotted down some of what has been helpful for me in the past and what has worked as I held space for another..
If you are in the presence of someone and you can sense something is wrong you can choose to be of support for them but if will require creating a safe space for them to reside.
You do this by dropping from your head space and into your heart space opening it up and allowing the loving energies to flow forth.. it isn’t necessary to try to heal them or find a way to make them open up and talk, but by letting the love of the Infinite flow forth and let it do what it knows how to do.. if the person is ready to shed their stuff they will naturally shed it, if they are not ready to then that is perfectly okay too..
everyone has a time and a season and sometimes that season is a bit dark. At times darkness is necessary and can be really useful for finding strength, wisdom, mercy and grace and a tool to create enough discomfort for changes..
HOLDing space requires you having the ability to sit in the discomfort of your own darkness and the ability of being in a state of allowance and letting someone experience what ever it is that they need to without you projecting your discomfort upon their experience..
Sitting in silence can be a beautiful time and a lot of shifts can occur within the seat of ones infinite heart space..’love is all that resides.. being a space holder is an art that anyone willing to learn can eventually master.
KristyLee 💖StarFire
