let’s talk about grief..
Grief is the voice that speaks to you about loss, about love interupted. The true message of grief is that you must be brave enough to love again, to reach out to others and fill up your life and your being with love once again. Love is the core essence of who you really are, your connection to the Divine. You cannot be whole without it. It doesn’t matter who you love or what you love. Only that you extend love outward
You can be released from grief and sorrow and shift into loving acceptance, understanding, and healing, and begin to hold your loving memories without pain or guilt while you move on to live and love again
Life comes with lots of little surprises and sometimes they come wrapped in painful packages. Many of us where not tought how to be in the discomfort of emotional pain and as a result we do all we can to avoid it. Let’s take a look at some of the reasons avoidance isn’t such a good idea…
In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the body, mind and spirit are treated as one, with each aspect influencing the other. Emotional distress consequently effects the physical body and physical injury can induce emotional instability.
We have all experienced grief at some point in our lives. Whether it is the loss of a loved one, a pet, or a failed relationship, experiencing grief is part of being human. Emotions are natural and when expressed freely, will not cause lasting damage. It is when we internalize emotions, or get stuck in a repetitive pattern that we have the potential to create an imbalance.
According to Chinese Medicine the Lungs control respiration, dominate our Qi and are connected to the emotion of grief. Our lungs take in fresh oxygen and energy from the external environment and through exhale release waste and build up from the body. Grief is said to “consume the Qi.” When we experience prolonged, intense grief or sadness, we may experience physical symptoms.
Physical symptoms of disharmony in the Lungs would include shortness of breath, asthma, allergies, sweating, fatigue, coughing, frequent colds/flu and dry skin. Grieving is a necessary process. We must allow ourselves to go through all the stages of grieving before we can return to a state of joyfulness. This process is personal and multi-layered.
It is important to remember to take time out and breath deeply while grieving. Energy healing can be utilized as one unique tool in the grieving process by stimulating energy maridians and pressure points that strengthen the Lung (Metal meridian) and calm the mind. It can help ease the path to renewed joy by offering not only a place for your body to heal but a quiet time of reflection.
Your lungs and heart sustain your life. When you are experiencing grief, you may be closed off to sharing love, your heart and lungs begin to deteriorate. Again, Deep grief affects your lungs and heart. If you experienced loss, betrayal, or rejection, healing increases as we express love. You can intellectually know that someone loves you. You can experience demonstrations of that love. But, you cannot FEEL their love. The only way to actually FEEL love is to express it yourself. When you are in a state of love, your heart chakra and whole chest area expands. Your body’s vibration raises. You feel happy, elevated, alive. You feel connected to something larger than yourself. Loving, therefore, is really a gift to yourself–not to the object of your affections. Sharing love promotes healing.
You DO NOT have to have personal love in order to feel love. You can feel unconditional love for everyone in your life, for humanity, for your pets, for the awe-inspiring beauty of our planet, for yourself. You can take action to seek closeness with others, instead of waiting for people to come to you. The important thing is that you allow yourself to feel love. It is your natural state
Expressing love attracts love from others. Get a pet and love it. Volunteer to help others. Let yourself be overwhelmed by beauty. Let your love out! It may feel scary at first, I encourage you to push past the discomfort and open your heart again.
During times in my life that I have experienced grief, and it has began to consume my life, I have learned to ask for help from others who are on a Healers path. I find that it is easier to share openly and express myself freely with someone who is familiar with ENERGY and spiritual meanings of what I am suffering with and have the ability to hold sacred space as I heal and shift into balance and harmony.
Heartache and grief do not have to be your final designation. Reach out for assistance and be guided as you Release, release, release and shift into balance and harmony within your mind, body, spirit, soul.
Many blessings to you, and tons of love,
kristy lee
